A lot of people stress out about the big birthdays — 30, 40, 50, and beyond…
And I believe that’s a sign that something’s off. Something’s out of alignment. Because when you’re truly living your message, growing older feels like a gift. A celebration of what has been… and what’s to come.
Think about it — each year you’re alive, you gain more wisdom and step more fully into your power.
It makes me sad when I meet people in their 40s, 50s or 60s who feel like the best is behind them.
I believe that the best is always ahead. Your best lies in the process of becoming.
Insight #1: Anything is possible at any time, you can fundamentally change your life with the snap of your fingers if you so want to. It may take awhile for your brain and your identity to catch up, but you can do it.
I believe our potential as humans is truly infinite… and we hold ourselves back in so many ways because we learn to focus on our challenges and limitations instead of our greatness.
We’re surrounded by people who see who we are and not necessarily who we are becoming.
Which leads me to…
Insight #2: “If you want to go far, go together.” — African Proverb
We’re stronger together than we are apart, as a team… and as a tribe. No matter how good you are at what you do as an individual, teamwork, collaboration and mentorship will always make you better.
We are tribe-based animals for a reason. Tribe truly comes first. Find your tribe… or create it!
Insight #3: “You can have everything you want in life, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” — Zig Ziglar
The secret to success is much simpler than most people imagine. The secret to success is simply helping other people get what they want.
It’s amazing how much you can receive when you lead with giving.
Insight #4: If you’re not growing, you’re dying.
I’ve made a commitment in my life to walk what I call the Master’s Path. It keeps me hungry and humble, because of Mastery… is a lifelong pursuit.
There’s always another level to your craft and to your game, and you can find huge fulfillment when the work becomes its own reward.
You don’t work to eat. You don’t work to live. You don’t work to prove yourself. You work because it’s your calling. It’s the expression of your soul coming through you.
You work because…
Insight #5: Your purpose — and your business should you choose to build one — is not only the greatest form of personal development there is, but it’s also the fastest way to step fully into the person you’re meant to be.
People worry all the time about expertise and credibility, they think they need another degree or certification before they can “do them” or “be them.”
They don’t realize that simply being them and doing them gives them all the expertise and credibility they need.
You, my friend, open doors.
Insight #6: There’s nothing more powerful than being fully and authentically YOU.
Your greatest contribution to the world is simply being you.
Fully, without shame or embarrassment…
and definitely without holding back.
All that’s needed is to…
Insight #7: Be all in like a boss.
Commit fully. Hold nothing back. Do it for real. Having one foot in and one foot out will only get you the hokey pokey.
Greatness lies in your full commitment.
As Yoda famously said, “Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
Insight #8: If something’s going to change, you’re the one to do it.
Instead of blaming, shaming or judging, take full ownership and responsibility of every situation.
Lead by example. Take initiative. Dare to care.
Insight #9: Never settle in life, love or business for anything less than your Fullest Expression and your most Unrestricted Desires.
Settling is for dust. Or a cup of tea.
Insight #10: Keep in mind that the first time you do anything is almost always the hardest. If you do it once, then you can do it again. It only gets easier from here…
All you have to do is take the next step, then keep moving. Momentum will take care of the rest, so you can…
Insight #11: Live… and die… without regret.
This one is a tagline I wrote for my student Annette Pang…
and they are truly words to live by.
And I believe in living by your words…
Insight #12: Language makes the world go round. You speak your life into being, so say what you mean and mean what you say.
Insight #13: Behind every complaint is a hidden, unexpressed desire.
Everything people say and do is either a cry for love or an act of love.
Practice seeing the love in each situation and take nothing personally.
Insight #14: Become a time warrior.
Guard your time, energy, attention, focus and life force as if your life depends on it — because it does.
Other people’s lives depend on it.
Say no — a LOT — so you can say yes to what matters.
Insight #15: Insights come from anywhere and everywhere… yes, that’s kind of like wishing for more wishes, but hear me out. I grew up traveling the world with my family and I learned that the deepest insights, inspirations and solutions are often found in the most unlikely places. Stay open. Stay humble. Stay hopeful.
Insight #16: Human ingenuity can solve every problem known to man. Every problem ever created… and every problem yet to be created.
My client Michael Hancox has devoted his company to “transcending finite natural resources with infinite human potential.”
How can you transcend the finite with the infinite in you?
Insight #17: Beauty is everywhere and life is an art form.
It’s not just what you do, it’s how you do it.
It’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it.
Live with panache, beauty and wonder.
Insight #18: Invest in yourself. Human capital is the most valuable asset in the world…
And you are your most valuable investment.
Why invest in stuff when you can invest in growth and learning?
Insight #19: Don’t forget to appreciate the small stuff.
Celebrate every day.
Laugh for no reason…
and enjoy the ride.
Insight #20: There is only now.
In a weird way I don’t believe in holidays because I believe in celebrating life every day.
I don’t believe in Valentine’s Day because I believe in celebrating love every day.
I don’t believe in birthdays because I believe in celebrating you and what you want — every day.
I’ve watched this trend towards birthday weeks and birthday months and it makes me laugh — why limit the celebration to a day? A week? Or a month?
Why wait until your birthday comes around to say, “This year I’ll do it.”?
There is no this year or next year, there is only now.
You’re as ready as you’ll ever be. Do it now!
Thanks for reading!
I must admit, I’m writing this post as much for me as I am for you… this is my record of who I am and what I believe at this particular sliver of time.
What are YOUR biggest insights from being alive?
Leave a comment, let me know, let’s enrich each other’s lives.
Now go out there and Live Your Message.