I’m at the Eiffel Tower Bridge in LA where, over the holidays, people hang all these little signs about where in the world they want to go.
I thought about where I want to go this year and my mind went back to an assignment in high school. The teacher asked us to write about the Spanish word Querencia which means “the longing or desire for home.”
I wrote that home is where your feet are and you know what? My essay won a bunch of awards 🙂
I truly believe that wherever you are in the world — whether you live out in the boonies, whether you live in a gigantic city like Paris or New York — you can make where you’re at, feel like home.
And you can make your business feel like home when you truly embrace exactly where you are, right here, right now and it’s not always about setting your sights on “over the rainbow” dreams and desires.
When you’re always thinking about something you don’t have yet, you’ll end up sabotaging your own happiness.
So, for me it’s all about the magic of Querencia — embracing that home is where your feet are, home is where you are right now on planet earth and in this particular moment of time because it paves the way for where you plan to go.
You can’t get “there” when you ignore where you are right now.
So, when I started to reflect on where I want to go this year, I realized I’m happy exactly where I am. I’m happy to be living in West Los Angeles. I’m happy where I am in my business right now, I’m happy where I am in my life and in my marriage and I’ve got so much to be grateful for right here, right now.
Sure, I’ll always want more! I want to become more and feel more and do more and achieve more…
But that desire for more starts with an acceptance of where I am.
Instead of always longing for the great beyond, longing to be in Paris, longing to be somewhere other than here, let’s see what happens when you’re grateful for exactly where you are.
Let’s see how your life changes when you start to accept what you have and what you don’t have and just be thankful and realize that the feeling of “being home” comes from within.
Home is not a place. Home is a feeling that you’ve landed where you belong, and that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be at this moment in time. Nothing more nothing less.
Knowing that every single experience you’ve ever had up until now has led you right here, to this precise moment in time…
Practice Querencia. Practice having that longing not for somewhere “beyond” but for where you are.
Home is where YOU are.
Welcome home, my friend. We’ve got a warm fire going, a cup of hot cocoa with marshmallows and a gigantic hug waiting for you
And here’s what I’d love for you to do…
Instead of thinking about all the places you want to go this year and all the things you want to do, stop, take a deep breath and then write, “I accept where I am right now” in your journal or on a piece of paper.
Try it and let me know in the comments…
How did it feel to accept, embrace and feel grateful for all of your accomplishments and wins, all of the pain and the “epic fails” and the heartache that brought you to where you are today?